Will Never Talk to in-laws Again

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They make me feel I dont belong to their family, fourth dimension and again, even though in everyday life we get along very very well. They would do anything for their son,their grandson, but me am just there. I retrieve they attempt to get forth with me just to become admission to their son and grandson. I can smile and say all is well, merely certain instances nail the point. Information technology affects my human relationship with hubby also. Husband understands what im trying to say and if I dont desire to talk to them then he is fine with information technology, but he cant do the same, which im okay with. I think it volition save a lot of grief and acting.
Confused actually maybe im not thinking well. But has anyone stopped talking to in-laws completely, what are the implications?
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nskssp,
Yeah, I hardly ever talk to my ILs. My MIL stays with usa and my conversation with her is minimal. Just about food, yeah and no. I know it feels really odd to not talk to someone living with you and I tried to have coincidental conversations with her in the beginning, but she would immediately start complaining or maxim hurtful things.
I talk to my sils on occasions. It is once again quite formal and impersonal. In the past, my SILs ganged upwardly on me and made me feel similar an outsider. I take non been able to forget the hurt and I have no interest talking to them. It's same with other relatives also.
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ive shunned the relationship since i left my inlaws.. my fil lone volition visit one time in a while and i just say hi and serve him some drink...thats all.. my hubby has told that noone "there" is talking almost me.. my fil invited me to his house couple of times thru my husband. just i hvnt visited in this two years... my husband tld that my mil just says to close the firm door properly when am alone at dwelling and be careful... that irritated me.. ah,as if she cares'....i dont care if they dont consider me every bit one in the family unit cos i dont like that family and dont long to exist a function of it. they are the one trying to come closer to me in every sense as am in the "child begetting" stage. and then i expect that they volition invite themselves into my life when i become preg... which obviouly i dont like much.. anyways let see..
might sound rude..simply am similar that ..once betrayed, betrayed for life...its not worth a single penny to hav relationship with those ppl.. just i will gratify my hubby in this regard.
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Some bridges can never be crossed, full stop, lesson learnt volition now movement on. I dont want to feel used upward and non wanted, will stay away from them as that's desire they desire too from their own behaviour.
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well, don't end talking to them all of a sudden, permit it be a gradual process, see over a course of few months , if you think they don't love or respect you the way you lot deserve..That would look really bad on you part..Talk to them in one case while on birthdays, special occasions,, etc...when they are non effectually,, keep asking husband about their well being that way..it will look like ,you are concerned nigh your inlaws , to your hubby..and yous can avert talking to them diretly..Gradually they will get message. they may alter good luck
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i am hurt and so badly in these 5 years of my marriage that i dont even desire to encounter their faces in my life time.
i have stopped calling them on phone long back. they dont consider me as thier family member anymore.
i dont care, i am hurt that bad. it was a mental torture which indirectly was a physical torture for me. information technology affected my health and then bad.
and YES they take it as an opportunity to defame me more infront of relatives and others.
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Well, this thread has come up at a fourth dimension when I am really frustrated with my ILs and really wondering the implications of severing communication with them!
Long story with a lot of hurt and emotional baggage...my FIL has never spoken to me in 3 yrs and MIL talks if I talk to her...they had visited united states of america in one case afterward marriage (that as well because we had an accident and they rushed to encounter if their son was ok, even though nosotros fabricated information technology articulate that we didn't accept a unmarried scratch on us!)...they never visited after that, even after several invitations from me to come up over for a weekend. I found out but yesterday that they decided not to set foot in my house because of something I did during their visit! I must admit that I acted young during that incident, simply it is ironic that my FIL humiliated me several times during that visit and it never occurred to them that they too had played a office. When I establish out nearly this yesterday, I was furious for two things: that they would have such bitterness in their hearts and act equally if zero was amiss; that they are now planning visits just considering we moved to the U.S a month agone!

I know that atleast 10% of the people around me won't like me...and I am at peace with that. Merely I only cannot respect people who harbor negative feelings and attitudes inside and deport differently on the outside. I really have no desire to maintain contact with my ILs, but I am holding myself accountable to God and my parents, equally both of them won't approve of my decision to astringent relationships...therefore, I am maintaining a cool altitude and haven't taken the extreme step. But, I am really not sure when all of this is going to blow up and I confront them...I have a nasty feeling it could happen in the side by side couple of years considering I am holding back a lot on the inside and am hoping things don't escalate to that level.

Just a question to the residuum of you who Take severed contact with your ILs...how has it affected your relationship with your spouse? Does your spouse immediately stop communicating with your parents? How tin you maintain peace and beloved in the marriage with such negativity?!
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Hi nskssp,
Exercise you lot feel bad at heart for not talking to them?
What is your married man feeling about it?What is the bear upon of it on your son?